Wednesday 27 August 2014

We ALL are really, REALLY "good" liars!


If I were to write only about the good, well then what aid or good would it really be… Not just to me but to anyone really. What if writers everywhere did this?! I am being some what silly here but not 100% goofy. Some writers write only positive outlooks, happy endings, and fluffy things. In our ethical stupidity we as a society have purchased some of this garbage in an attempt to exchange those gaps of hopelessness, but then only receive shallow and humanist wisdom. If you do not entirely understand what I mean then may I suggest that you watch the movie Yes Man with Jim Carey. Now let me apologize for that suggestion as my memory is recalling some totes inapprops scenes, but if you have seen the movie then yes you get where I am kind of drifting with this thought. So, if life were really just a series of fairy tale endings then how could I or we learn to enjoy the journey?
 
 
Simply put, if I were to merely talk about how wonderful and fantastic my life was then would you question your own life and compare? Let’s be realistic here…when people talk about only the good things in their lives, what are they hiding from? Are they hiding from you thinking less of them and their best, or are they worried that you will reject them if you know about some of their ugliness and short comings? That though is a whole other rabbit trail, (insert ADD notes here ;)
 
 
Comparison kills, it kills you from the inside and it works to smack the people down around you. Frankly I hate comparison and do not completely understand it. Comparison is more or less saying, God you gave me the wrong life! The analogy in my mind is that of the short stick or unlucky lot. Basically telling God, you see that guy or gal over there got the good life, trade my life with theirs; it sounds fair and reasonable right? Wrong. God I demand that you do it because I choose to not be content and choose to focus on my lack and the prosperity of others. Well that is a disturbing way of viewing it but it happens even if never said out loud. It is instead said in our actions, comments and jealous and coveting behaviors. Yuck.  
 
There are things I may admire about another person and their life or their abilities and so forth but to covet their life, yikes! Well that good sir or madam is a tight rope I do not want to walk on or wish to attempt to. A close friend of mine once told me this, “I have purposed in my heart to celebrate with the people I care about in my life, regardless of the season I am walking in”. What they mean is this; in any season, in lack or need, or want I have decided to be joyful, content and celebrate my life and those who are in it, come hell or high water! Sometimes we sink and sometimes we swim. I for one do not want to be floating around on a blown up kids gator and grasping on and barely able to float. It is not comfortable for me and it sure is not comfortable for anyone else to have to watch. It really is just a ridiculous idea and image.

 
Ok so here is the truth, at times we ALL are really, really “good” liars! As always insert, GASP!

I do not want to ever be a really good liar, ever. I also do not ever want you (people in general) to think that I am a liar, but at the end of the day it may happen and I need to learn not to care so much about what people think of me. My unfiltered thought is just that though; I can run dangerously close to being a really good liar, if I permit it. Let me explain what I mean. I will ask you a few questions and if you answer yes to any of them then you are similar to me, human and at times flawed. Join the club and get over it, PS they make a bumper sticker for that, ok maybe? Here are my questions; do you enjoy it when people see the worst qualities in you and disapprove? Do you ever find it difficult to admit when you are in denial? Have you ever struggled with being vulnerable with even those closer to you; such as closest friends and family? Yep I do.


If you answered no to all of those then congratulations you are doing a superb job of being a really, really “good” liar. Honest thought here, it is hard at times to show people the ugly stuff in your life and wonder if they will reject you for it. It is much harder to put up a front and act like everything is totally ok when your world is blowing up and crashing down all at the same time. Of course I do not necessarily mean literally as it could be an emotionally feeling or a figure of speech. I have written about this before, that feelings are not truth. For example I could feel like the sky is going to fall but the truth and reality is that more then likely that will not happen. If your “sky” falling really does happen then maybe it is the end of the world but more then likely maybe it is just God’s way of saying, “Enough! Something had to give.”
 
I make mistakes, all the time and yes sadly I will continue to make heaps of them for the rest of my life until the good Lord takes me to my real home. With fairy tale endings, yes I long for mine and I desire certain things and dream of others. I will not be controlled by them though. Being vulnerable here I must say that I have struggled with this a lot in the past few months and even the last year. It is me learning to continually lay things down, time after time again. It is me saying God you know best and I trust that you will take care of the rest and lead me in this journey. I am the extreme A type of personality that wants to do everything and at times please everyone but it is not possible. It is a breath of fresh air to be reminded of that though. Also comforting to have God tell me it will all be ok even when I feel like I have screwed up massively and yet do not know entirely why, how or what to do.

Yes I have had a good share of hardships, heartbreaks, difficulties, and what haves, we all do and will. Here is the silver lining life goes on, and on, and on. I get chance, after undeserved chance to do something about it and do things more then just differently. I get to receive mercy and grace daily and to me this is Gods loving reminder of being grateful for my life. Not because some one tells me I have to be, but because I feel grateful and have purposed in my heart to be grateful.
 
I am rambling slightly but what I have been reflecting on very recently is that it is ok that lately I have not “felt” ok as that does not actually translate into the fact that I will not be ok. My life is my life, it is a journey, no one else’s and as silly as it may sound I needed God to remind me of all of that. I needed him to poke at my heart and say, do not turn to stone, do not freeze. It is ok to feel and feelings are good but when it is all said and done I am responsible for what I do with how I feel and how I act or react. In saying all that lately I have not done the best job in that department but I am working on it. I have other thoughts but these are conversations between me and my maker, the good, thought provoking and encouraging type.
 
Tomorrow is my birthday and as I reflect on another year passing I can not help but think that although I am not where I may physically want to be I am precisely where I should be.
 
 

Tuesday 11 February 2014

Relationship Status Update: Insert Public Notice This Valentine’s Day


Pagan roots, consumerism, and Hallmark. Let’s not even mention the 20 some odd billion dollars the US spends each year on this holiday? I do find it rather interesting that the word Hallmark refers to a mark or series of marks made on precious metals. Hallmark sure does use marketing to leave a mark or a series of impressions on consumers. Cheers Hallmark you sucked about $15 dollars out of my pocket on greeting cards, well played, well played indeed. Anyways that was my random spat that does not really relate to what I want to actually touch on in this post. I am however; wait for it, yes I will touch on the topic of Valentine’s Day or as some say Singles Awareness Day.
 
 
I was thinking about some things over the last week, knowing of course that Valentine’s Day is coming up and knowing that it may mean different things to different people. Single, dating or married I think you would have to have just crawled out from underneath a prehistoric rock to not know that February 14th is Valentine’s Day. If you did not know about Valentine’s Day or don’t live in North America and thus were lucky enough to not be swept away by consumerism then maybe disregard reading this as I don’t want to ruin you!

 
Ok so we have established the fact that February 14th is a day that we are made aware of whether we care, think we care, or know that we don’t really care about celebrating this holiday. It is interesting to me that even for myself with not really caring about this silly holiday that deep down I do still care. Let me explain what I mean. I know logically that Valentine’s Day is a money grab of a holiday where I am bombarded by marketers for weeks leading up to the day as they try and get my money for something I don’t really care about. I also know that I don’t need someone romantically in my life to complete me. Christ did the most romantic act to win my heart, He bleed and died on a cross for me, this is more than enough and no man will ever trump that. Sorry if I break some of your guys bubbles here but you won’t beat that one in any special Christian ladies life. If you think you have or will you may want to get over your God complex before getting into a relationship. My point about deep down still caring about this silly holiday…I still care because deep down my heart desires to be pursued, loved and in a marriage relationship with a man. The truth being this desire is not a bad thing or something to try and cover up or even run from. Although it all has to do with me and what I do with this desire. What I mean by this is that I am in control of my thought life and my emotions and therefore responsible for them. Which my emotions might sometimes spike off the charts and crash and burst into flames (guys Google sinking ship if you so desire a picture of what this looks like for us gals ) but I can discipline myself and be self-governed.


I can choose to read romantic books, watch romantic movies, think and dwell on romantic thoughts. I can even talk or listen to people or things that fill my brain and cloud my heart with unrealistic expectations of romance or the lies that come with some of these activities. Lies that say things like you will always be single, you’re too much, you’re not enough, you’re not really ok with being single, you’re not getting any younger, all your friends are married or in relationships and on and on the list goes. And on we go from feeling and being ok with our season of singleness (or even say being ok with being married or in a committed relationship to feeling insecure or unsure about it) to comparing ourselves with those around us and their relationship statuses, yes statuses (how easy it is to put our best foot forward online and look like life is picture perfect). Random thought here, I really dislike some of the fakeness that comes with social media. We are willing to post our perfect Kodak moments but we are not so quick to throw up a, “Had a temper tantrum and made an idiot of myself” status.  
 
 
Deep down I love to be loved, to be held and have a man’s presence of strength beside me, and in the future to be married and be a wife. My heart has wanted this and longed for this. This was once a dream that was stripped from me and had left me feeling like I would never want to even venture down a path where I could DREAM of being married again.
 


Scared, terrified, and unsure. No that is not how we should be feeling about our relationship status, holiday or not. This does not negate the fact of how we may feel about February 14th but this is where truth can trump fear, and where we can say it is well with my soul regardless of how I feel and regardless of my season. My encouragement to my friends and readers is this, married, dating or single remember who you are pursing? Let it be God, build His Kingdom and he will build yours, surround yourself with people who are running in the same direction as you and will cheer you on even when you want to quit. Being singles does not mean there is anything wrong with you, let me remind you that you don’t have some rare disease. Love God and people deeply this February 14th and remember at the end of the day it is just another day.
 
 
 
Pressure at Valentine’s Day!

Explain why you choose to be single still… The why aren't you married question?

I feel like it’s the best day in the world (celebrated anyways) LOVE! I choose love for my life and that makes all the difference in the world! I love my friends and family. I love creating things. I love my savior... I could go on and on about LOVE... And I know that God has great LOVE for me. As far as a demonstration of love... What chick doesn’t enjoy being thought of and treated special... That I do look forward to receiving more in the days to come...
 
 
Don’t just stand there already! Make me Blush & Barf Butterflies

What do you Struggle with the MOST around Valentine’s Day?
 
I struggle most with the hideous plush teddies that are out there…strawberry marshmallow hearts for the win people! COME ON NOW! Now those make my heart (and tummy) sing. But for real, for now I find myself buying my own heart shaped candy (because it's delicious) not because I'm some damsel in distress lying on the train tracks eating candy while I wait for a knight in shining armor riding a white horse that sings some Taylor Swift love song. Valentines though for me just feels overwhelming, the unwanted pressure or thoughts that society (and even friends) place on me that I'm not good enough if I don't have someone showing me affection romantically right NOW! Like whoa…feeling blindsided by these unwanted thoughts because I'm single and I feel good about it. I serve a God who loves me more than anyone ever possibly could…and therefore what that also means is that in HIS time, He will bring along that man that makes me blush and barf butterflies (and previously eaten cinnamon hearts and strawberry marshmallows) with a smile stretching from the Pacific to the Atlantic and my eyes shimmering like gold in the air of summer. You may think I'm crazy and believe me, if there's anyone who would agree with you there, it's me. A redeemed feminist and hater of love…I can accept that this is how God made me. A woman of God who wants a man of God to pursue me, to love me, and to be my fairytale ending. Not because some silly day called Valentines says so, but because God designed my heart, my thoughts, my feelings, he designed me and you know what, he even designed that ONE guy who's out there, somewhere…waiting for me too.

 
 
“Talks Too Much”, He said it not me…
From a Male viewpoint, Do you feel pressure surrounding Valentine’s Day?
 
I was never caught up in Valentine’s Day while being in my long relationship. It wasn’t so much that I had something against the consumerism, more so that I didn’t think I needed a day on a calendar to tell me when to show love or be romantic. You might think that’s good, but it’s not. Now being single for some time, I’ve had a chance to put into perspective exactly how I feel God wants us to treat his daughters. Proverbs 31:10-12 “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain. She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” The woman God gave you is priceless. Spend the money God has given you on her. No, not just on a certain date, but take advantage of that certain date. Believe it’s romantic, or believe it’s a money grab, but I can tell you for certainty that no matter what she says of Valentine’s Day, she will love the gesture and she will feel cherished. If you have to set aside some money in advance to go all out, do it! Its money, she is the woman God graciously gave to you. Take every chance you can to make her feel priceless. Jesus did countless things for his church, but he still has those special days where he went all out. Say, the crucifixion, for example… 1 Corinthians 7:39 “A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.” Guys, she’s stuck with you… Either make it enjoyable, or die so she can find someone who will, because someone will. Proverbs 18:22 say that when you find your wife, you found a good thing and you obtained favor from the Lord. I know when I’m going to obtain something valuable I’m willing to go an extra mile. I know when I’m trying to obtain something that the creator of the universe says is priceless, I’m going to go EVERY extra mile. Make sure she feels beautiful and invaluable. That’s God’s daughter who has been put in your life. Treat her as so at EVERY opportunity. Ephesians 5:25 “Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.”
 
 
College Bliss from this Little Miss…
What is God teaching you in this season of your life?

I think the first thing to say about this question is that, as in all of life, the things that I’m learning are more of a continuum of deeper levels of the same lesson than multiple different lessons. Ultimately, in every area of my life, it all comes down to trust for me. “This season”, I’m finding, is less about being single and more about being where I’m at – wherever that is – with grace and dignity. Absolutely, as a single woman, there is a necessity to remember again and again to trust God for my future husband and family. But as a young adult, the challenge that we all face is to trust God for our futures and for His will in our lives in every area – vocational, educational, and relational. So right now, one of the biggest things I’m learning is to lean in to what God is teaching me right now, because it will transcend the season that I’m in.
That being said, two things stand out from the past two years as being specific markers in this process of learning to trust God. First, the concept from Oswald Chambers of ‘others may; I cannot’ - I used to think about this quote as a burden to be born but God totally turned it around on me just over a year ago. Consider this: in order to say yes to anything, I am saying no to other things. So although others may say yes to a relationship, I cannot and so I am free to say yes to other pursuits in my life that God has used and is using to shape me into the person I’m meant to be for Him. By asking me to abstain in the area of romance, God has freed me to focus on Him and on school – and as boring as that may sound to some, I feel unleashed!
There are dreams in my heart that I can’t accomplish without excelling at education and grounding myself in the Lord; two things that I’ve been able to give myself to in the past two years, which leads me to my other revelation: I once heard the concept of being consecrated or set apart described as having one’s hands full of purpose. When your hands are full, there isn’t room for anything else, and when they’re full of purpose, there isn’t any mental room either. Right now I’m so grateful, because God has filled my hands with purpose and dreams and pursuits that leave me with no time to concern myself with “some day’s” and “maybe when’s”.
 
What do you find most challenging about your single season?
 
There are two things, I think, that can make being single difficult. One of these is valid, but should be dealt with in maturity; the other is a nasty trick of the enemy, who tries to rob people of their peace and contentment, and quite frankly I’m sick of having my time wasted by it!
So first we have loneliness. I say that it’s valid because I know that I was made for companionship, and the desire to be in a relationship with a man  - where we can go for long walks and hold hands and talk about everything under the sun - is a healthy one. Maybe a bit romanticized in my feminine mind, but healthy none-the-less. Knowing that I don’t have that option right now can be tough, but I have to remember what I do have: I have a father who loves me and who is happy to take the place of Mr. Right until such a time as he comes along. I have a mother who, in many ways, is my best friend and someone that I can talk to about anything. I have a sister and brother-in-law who love me and are protective of me. I have amazing friends, some of whom have husbands that have become like brothers to me. I’m not starved of relationships, I’m just not in a romantic relationship right now and that’s OK. I have to deal with those moments of loneliness wisely though, because if I don’t, I am apt to compare myself with others who I don’t perceive to be lonely because they do have a man by their side.
Comparison. That’s the second difficulty, and it makes me so angry because it tries to cut you off from your support systems by making your best friends your competitors. When I’ve given in to comparing my situation to that of other women that I know, it has only ever led to disruptions in valuable friendships and insecurity in myself. Invariably I end up pining after ‘just any’ relationship instead of waiting in anticipation of the right one. And I’m just going to say it – that’s the mentality of someone who’s going to settle. Even if I met the right man while thinking that way, and ended up marrying him, I would have settled and set myself up to be discontent. Why? Because in that mindset, I’m looking for someone to solve all my problems, and no man can do that. When I approach a relationship from a position of insecurity, I will never trust it. But when I approach it from vulnerability (but security in God) I will release my future husband to be the man that he was made to be.
So all that being said, I don’t think I’m suffering as a single person. I’m learning and growing and some days I have better perspective than others, but I wouldn’t change my situation right now. When the time comes for dating and engagement and marital bless, I’ll jump in with both feet! Until then, I’m jumping in to my right now with both feet. So what am I doing this Valentine’s Day? I’m helping set up for the wedding of two of my dearest friends, and I couldn’t be more excited! After all, the holiday is about celebrating love and spending time with people you love – sounds exactly like what I’ll be doing.





Valentine’s Day, Romance and Clogged Tubs...
 

1. I don't really believe there is ONE right one, until you marry them and then they are the right one, even if it feels like the wrong one. Post-altar is the wrong time to decide whether or not you made a mistake. God didn't give us free-will to take it away when it comes to this crucial decision. What if your ONE didn't think you were the ONE? What if the ONE, went and married someone else? This is all very confusing. My main point is here: don't go to every event thinking "Maybe I will meet the ONE". You may have met already, and you just don't see each other in that way yet. Or maybe it is not time yet. Either way, you could end up missing a lot of great memories looking for something that isn't there.

2. One thing I could never understand was when people would say "as soon as you are not looking, he will appear" or "as soon as you really surrender this issue, he will come".  Oh man! The hours I spent squeezing my eyes till I thought they would bleed trying to convince myself I didn't want to get married... what a waste of time.  OF COURSE I WANT TO GET MARRIED! Most of the promises for a woman's heart are tied up in relationship.  In my world marriage is important in the steps to a family. I wanted a husband to run through life with, and children to give my life to. What part of this should I deny? I think a more helpful statement (which could be what they meant) is to say: "As with everything in the kingdom, there is timing. Our timing vs. God's timing. Anything worth having is worth waiting for. In the meantime, become the best lover of God and his people that you can be. Be content, pour your heart out to the Lord and give your heart and your timeline to Him. Build His kingdom and He will build yours".

3. I think most people look for a formula that will assure them the most painless way possible to the altar.  This makes sense to me. Who wants to get hurt? Who wants to invest any time, energy and emotion into something that isn't going to work in the end? No one. This is where it gets hard. Sometimes relationships start and go like gangbusters and end up following a pattern that can seem desirable, even predictable. Let's say a couple starts dating in the summer, they get engaged by spring and they are married the following summer. There may be a few rough patches along the way, but overall it goes smoothly and they look as happy as any two people can be. This looks great! So, when another relationship starts, and it doesn't go that way, it can look wrong or maybe somehow the plan didn't work. Or, let's say, two very honourable people start a relationship and for whatever reason, it doesn't work out. It hurts, tears will fall, hearts will break, but This is not failure. It is painful yes, but in time, both parties will probably come to realize that they both need to be with someone who is CRAZY about them. When a heart is hurting, this is not the time to tell them that. But ended relationships can very well be an opening for a successful and beautiful relationship in the future.

This may seem too obvious to say... but not every relationship goes to marriage. Not fun, but better to know before you get into it.

4. When you are looking for a spouse, what you need is a foundation of respect. Cute is great, beautiful...sure. Chemistry plays a part and friendship is important. Nothing replaces respect. Nothing. The best foundation for any relationship is respect. Looks come and go. Nice cars, abilities that make the heart swoon (like singing or being an eloquent speaker, wealth, etc...) are a bonus. But NOTHING compares with respecting the person you are sharing your life with. If you see flaws in character:  dishonesty, a hot temper, wandering eyes, rude behavior,  loose with private information, or a lack of common sense, I would say slow down, maybe even back out. Those things don't just go away. They can change in time, but if a relationship proceeds with the knowledge that these things exist, there is not any real incentive to change is there?

5. Work on you. Instead of focusing on what you can't have, think about what you can do. Get healthy, learn how to budget, volunteer, learn how to govern your emotions, grow deep in your faith, build meaningful, lifelong friends, find a deep belly laugh. I truly think the wrong thing to do is to sit on your proverbial thumbs, looking pretty, waiting for someone to ask you to dance. I suppose this one is typically for the girls, but let me echo Audrey Hepburn who said "Happy girls are the prettiest". Happy people make great marriage partners. People with purpose tend to be happy, you see the pattern here.

6. You will never hear me talking poorly about my husband. I think it is a wise choice.  However, it kind of gives the impression that things are never hard. Maybe it looks like we just dance on daisies and never have to figure out why the garbage isn't being taken out. This one is challenging. If a girl in a new relationship expects her boyfriend to treat them the way that Shawn treats me now, it will probably not turn out well. Shawn wouldn't have even passed that test. When we were dating, it was all so new for both of us. It was awkward and sloppy and did I mention...awkward?

I was fearful on the best of days, terrified of rejection and so insecure. He was learning to carry my heart and he admitted many times feeling clumsy in it. We did argue, we had to figure each other out. We had long conversations looking for clarity and insight into each others souls. But we respected each other, we saw each other. We saw the potential in each other and as each month unfolded our respect grew. This was the soil that our relationship flourished in. I am happy to say that we have only grown in that since then.
Having said all of that, I want to say that marriage was the venue that Shawn found his strength. He has changed so much as he has carried the burden of being a husband and a father. To expect that any young man who has not deeply known a woman within the marriage commitment and then had a chance to be a father, could keep up with that is totally unrealistic. We have survived challenges from within and from without: getting to know each other under the shadow of my mom having cancer, infertility, four kids in 2.5 years...shall I go on? This changes us. Women handle things differently than men. I heard a quote recently that went something like this: "A woman simply is, but a man must become" (Stephen Mansfields - Book of Manly Men pg. 34).
Married men and fathers have become something amazing. These men know how to lean in when their woman is hurting, they know how to pick up the slack when she just can't, they work all day and still come home to play on the floor with the kids until dinnertime, they know their family and they know how to save the day, one day at a time. Those single guys around you have all of that inside of them. In the right setting, with the right mixture of humility and courage, they have every chance to be like those other great men that you admire.

 
 
:)
 

Thursday 26 December 2013

Just Another Day


Whisper, whisper

Those clouds that roll on in they look so grey

Mister, Mister

In the dark of night would you be there just to stay or in a glimpse turn and run away

Drummer, Drummer

Can you beat to the sound of a thousand lions roaring from deep within?

Captivated and this ship feels like it is sinking

All aboard, I am jumping in

The captain of the ship calls me to stay, he beckons me to hold on tight until the break of day

Whisper, Whisper

Can you hear my voice, the echo from before the heavens began





Mister, Mister

Patience, Hope, Trust, there they are and bound to land

Drummer, Drummer

Now the earth is shaking, but can you keep this heart captivating?

Veil from the sky long torn down

Beauty of His relationship brought with such a costly sound

He is the one who holds the keys to my life, sending out His angels to attend until the break of day

So hear the Whisper, Mister as the Drummer plays

Sunday 10 November 2013

Oh How it Looks so Different


Remember when you were a kid and you looked forward to special days like Christmas, your birthday or a family vacation. For me these were not always my favorite days but that’s not what I am getting at here in this analogy.  
 
Do you ever remember waiting for something with excitement and anticipation in your heart and then when you were about to unveil said gift you wondered is this really what I think it is? Is this really that kool, you fill in the blank here people….and in that moment you hesitated, you pondered if this gift was really the gift you wanted all along. Of course as kids our mentality is limited to that of a selfish two year old that is ready at a moment’s notice to announce to the world how we have just faced some unbearable justice. An example of this would be when mom says no to our demands for that toy we don’t even need and we react by having a freak out in the toy isle. With this thought in mind do we do this with God in our adulthood when a gift from Him looks differently than we thought it should look?
 
I have been thinking about this as I have been reflecting on a bunch of stuff that God has been downloading to me and showing me. It really is sick how we (I point at myself here as well as I am not oblivious to that big old plank) pray for God to move and do various things in our lives and then in the next moment are inclined, and even feel justified to try and rebuke God? Do we argue with him and in doing so state that He should not be in control of our lives. Clearly I know what is best, right? Wrong.
What I know is that at times I am ridiculously and selfishly motivated by how I think things should look and play out. Thank God that his playbook is far better than mine, as my moves suck big time. It is like at times I think hey maybe this round of chess I can outwit God of the Universe or make a better move than He can. Wrong again and quite funny. Derp...(yes I just used derp in my blog, get over it).
My life for sure looks differently than I thought it would. I thought I would be married with a few kids by now and have a stable career. However, in regards to my analogy about expecting one thing and getting something different I can say this is true for my life in so many areas. To put it into context better, it is like guessing that God is going to do one thing and He instead does something completely different. Not always different in the sense of hey I know your praying for a job but instead I am not going to bless you with a job. Why that would be taking what I am saying out of context. Different as in the form or the package, what I call the delivery of the promise. Does this mean that He is no longer a good and loving God and does not want to bless you? Absolutely not. Perhaps instead let me offend you by asking the question of does this mean that you instead need to restructure some of your attitudes, and even what you believe about some things? May a suggest looking at what Gods word says about it or praying about something before concluding that it is a good idea. There are a lot of good ideas out there but I for one do not want to build my life upon them.
 
 
I was speaking fairly recently to someone about relationships. This is when they mentioned some of the things they were wanting in regards to their future spouse. I remember being deeply offended (for a few reasons, but I am only touching on one of them) by some of what they said and almost feeling a sadness in my heart. I felt sad that they were so set in their thinking of what they thought would be best for them that they were not even open to the idea (see previous paragraph about good ideas) of something different than what they had already pre-decided. Hear me here as I am not saying not to pray for a Godly wife or husband. What I am referring to is more along the lines of different preferences and not being open to the idea of something other than those. Don’t go too far the other way and think oh no Gods not going to bless me with a spouse that I get along with or that I am attracted to, nope He doesn’t operate that way.
What I am really getting at here is what gives me the right in my own life to pre-plan and lay out the things in my life that I am praying for God to ordain? I have no right and it is extremely contradictory if you stop and really start to think about it from an unbiased viewpoint. Stop for a minute and remove, or at least try to remove some of the anticipation surrounding the waiting process like say that of a relationship. Stop and ask God hey is what I want not necessarily wrong but distorted from what you are trying so hard to show me and in return give to me for my life. Is what I want to look so different than what I first thought?

It is what we do with it that makes it a sin or not in our lives, do we allow something to dictate our lives to the point where things become relative? I for one hope not! I hope that my life is continually being refined by Him, not what I want and how I think something should look because it looks good in my corrupted mindset without Gods truth about the matter . Does this mean I am perfect? Yep….not perfect at all.

So what if my life looks so different than I thought? If God is in it than I really don’t care. What I do care about is my response in the in between. My response to whatever process he has me in while working on the stuff in my heart. If I am going to try and control anything in my life I think that would be one area to work one. How I respond instead of trying to control in a moment when something looks so different.






 
 
 
 
 
 
 
One story I am reminded of while writing this blog is in 1 Samuel 22-24 when David is fleeing from Saul. I am sure David thought wow this sure looks a lot different than I thought it would. We read about how it was far from a good time or what David had probably thought would happen but we also see that God was with Him where ever he went. Lord grant me a heart like that of David.
Daniel 10:12
Numbers 14:24

Tuesday 5 November 2013

If it is easy will it really please me?

If it is not hard, it is not God.
If it is easy will it really please me?

Just a few thoughts that come to my mind as I shuffle through a couple of days that have felt like a whirlwind of hope & excitement and then were followed by the crashing of the seas against the rock cliffs.

Do I jump? Do I run? Do I sink or do I swim?


Luke 8:25

Or do I wait, trust God and run to Him for EVERYTHING! The last few months have been what seem like flashes of some of the things I have dreamed about (a bunch of different things, some unhealthy and some God given desires) and then a bunch of no's and closed doors. Sometimes these doors have felt slammed shut to top it off.

Once again I want what is of God, what's hard, difficult, not easy. Not what feels ok and looks good to my flesh. I want the things of God even more then the comfort of my own flesh.


In one of my fave songs some of the lyrics are:
Here is my heart you can have it all.
That means not just bits and pieces for me to surrender but all of it.

ALL OF ME FOR ALL OF HIM.

I AM ON THE EDGE
SITTING FROM THESE CLIFF TOPS AND THEN DIVING IN
SWINGING ON THAT FARM BENCH
RUNNING THROUGH A THOUSAND FIELDS FULL OF MYSTERY

WHY DOES THE BUMBLEBEE BUZZ?
WHY DOES MY HEART WANT TO RUN FARTHER AWAY BUT ALSO WANT TO STAY
LET ME IN, DON'T LET ME GO
TAKE ME DEEPER JUST SO MY HEART CAN KNOW THEE
JUST SO I CAN FEEL YOUR HEART ALIVE IN MINE
JUST TO KNOW THAT IT IS YOU WHO TRULY HOLDS ME


If the only thing in this world that was really real was you, would that be enough?
Would that be ok for me to say...



James 1:6

But when you ask, you must believe and not doubt, because the one who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind.


October 27th

Just the start, just the beginning of something so beautiful. I can see it in the distance. I can almost taste the sweetness on my tongue. It is so close I can almost feel it.

It is like when summer fades and autumn dawns. Every where I look I see it. I see newness, life, all of creation is surrounded by the reality of your presence. I want to touch, I want to see, to feel, to experience more than what I deem to be real.

More than what I feel...
Bring me to the next level, more then the maturity of how I feel.

So close, not too far, not too long now.

 



Saturday 19 October 2013

Tick Tock


Sitting. Cold. Thinking in the grass...


Misery why won't you come and pass?
Sweep me like a broom brush hitting up against a rug.
Turning my eyes inside out.
Waiting patiently. Never failing, you're always faithful.

Tick Tock, time's running but I am not in charge of the clock.
Still can't see it, far off in the distance.
You steal my beating heart, the very breath of my existence.





Waiting patiently, tick tock, time's running but I am not in charge of the clock.
Sky is ablaze with wonder.
The excitement of another day, come and gone.


I am not a friend of fear but even the best things can go wrong.
The smell of autumn, the taste of tea. The crisp air kisses against me.

Your mercy and kindness pursuing, and even hunting me down.
Still cold, not numb or dead. Alive, able, capable and sound.

Waiting patiently,
Tick Tock, time's running but I am still not in charge of the clock.